(Women) QUESTION OF THE DAY: What would you say to your man if he told you he's not ready to settle down so you should wait for him? (Explain)

Would I wait for a man who isn't ready to settle down?...Hmmm! I am going to have to say...NO! Why would I want to wait for a man to mess around with Betty, Becky, and Sara then when he's tired and finished on the streets. I'm sitting here waiting for him...Hell No!
This is something I hear people say all the time. I totally understand someone not being ready to settle down and I don't believe one should rush into a relationship just to cater to the other persons feeling, but don't ask them to wait for you. If your not ready for a relationship let the person go so they can move on, because lets be honest if a man tells a woman to wait for him, but in the mean time they can do what they want, 9 times out of 10 the women is going to be stuck on stupid, miserable waiting for this man to finally want her. While he is happy on the street doing his thing because he knows "Wifey" is home waiting for him and "Wifey" is miserable because her man is with other women.
I personally feel waiting for someone to settle down is waste of time. Life is too short to be saying you'll wait x amount of time for someone to want you. While there could be a man who would treat you like a queen now and forever but you ignore him because your waiting on someone else to want you.


- Domonique Hume

WHAT LOVE REALLY IS!!!

  LOVE in my opinion is the most POWERFUL feeling that one can have. LOVE is supposed to be a BEAUTIFUL feeling, something that everyone in life should experience. When you are in LOVE it shows, it’s obvious that you can’t stand to be without your lover.  When you look at someone who is truly in LOVE, they have a ‘nothing bothers me’ attitude.

  Don’t get me wrong LOVE does have its turning points, where sometimes you may get in an argument with your lover. There is never a perfect relationship but it can be close, but there should never be a constant arguing in your relationship. If your partner puts you though crap all the time, they don’t LOVE you. When your lover CHEATS on you they are being disrespectful. Just because they tell you about their act doesn’t mean anything. They will confess then do the same thing over and over again, and just because they know all you want is the truth they will tell you the truth.

Something a lot of females need to realize that you being the main joint means nothing. Yes, they will come back to you because they know you will always be there. They are comfortable, that isn’t LOVE. Think about it if a person says they love you why must they cheat? What do they get out of it?

Another problem I see a lot is domestic violence. If you are unable to comfortable with your partner it is no longer LOVE, they are now controlling you. When you are afraid of doing things to tick them off, you become scared to leave them because of what their reaction maybe.

  Whenever people are in LOVE they let COMMON SENSE and LOGICS go out the window. I don’ want anyone to say they don’t have COMMON SENSE when you are in LOVE because that’s not true. You just choose not to listen to what your mind is telling you to do. You want to make something that isn’t working to magically change, but it can’t change with only one person.

  People that let a significant walk all over them are people that LOVE their partner more than they LOVE themselves, and in no way should that ever happen. You have to feel comfortable with yourself before trying to LOVE another person. When you RESPECT and CARE for yourself you will never let certain things slide in relationships.

Love/Relationship/Sex Talk 08/29 by onpointcelebz | Blog Talk Radio

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Question of the Day: What Would Your Reaction Be If You Caught You Partner Watching Pornography/Masterbating?

   What would I do?...hmmm I absolutely don't know what I would say or do, but I can say I wouldn't be very happy. I feel that porn is just another form of entertainment, but isn't something that should be watched on a day to day basis.
   Masturbation on the other hand isn't something that I want to catch my partner doing, but this too isn't an awful thing. Masturbation is a natural part of life, at least that is what I have heard on TV and the Internet by experts.
   What I'm saying is if you choose to do either one of these, things that is your choice, just don't let anyone catch you doing it. Keep it to yourself...Private...at least that's how I feel.What about yall?

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Question of the Day: Do you let your friends make the decisions in your relationship?

   This is one thing at causes a lot of relationships to go down under. You cannot let your friends dictate what is right and wrong in your relationship that is your decision to make and you must make it on your own. I know that there maybe times when you want to hear another opinion, and that is fine, but don't let other peoples opinion change your way of thinking. Sometime, no most times when your friend is quick to say, "leave him or her they ain't not good", observe them. Meaning see what they have in their life, do they have a man or women? Are they stable in life? Most times when these answers are no they just want to see you in the same position as them and they don't want to see you happy. they are jealous. I'm not saying that there aren't good friends out there but when you have a good friend they ask questions before they may or may not tell you to leave. They ask what happen? why do you think they did what they did? What did you do to contribute to his/hers behavior? They try to get to the bottom of the situation and then help you to find a solution.
   There are situations where you are being abused and they tell you to leave. Something like that you listen to. If a man/women is abusing you, you need to walk out there is not talk it out going to counseling...No Get out of thr situation as soon as possible. that is one exception I say you listen to your friend if they tell you to leave. Abuse isnt a playing matter.
   Other then that make your own decisions about love. But do think about this, is the relationship worth working on? Do you see you and this person moving forward? Do they respect you as a person?
In the end it all comes down to what you feel is right.

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BY: DOMONIQUE HUME

Question of the Day: Would you forgive your signifcant other if they cheated?

Before you jump and say you would never forgive your significant other, think about the situation. You have to ask these questions. What is your significant others personality? If you know you are in a relationship with a person that is very flirtatious and have cheated before then you may think twice. They may try to say you did this and you did that, but remember its natural for them to act this way because that's their personality. On the other hand you maybe be wrong also because you set them off and they are already eager and you made it worse. But if you are in a relationship with a  person who deals with one person and one person only, then you have to think, Why would they cheat? what did I do to maybe set them off? or what didn't I do? Sometimes when a good person is driven to far in a relationship they seek sanctification in another person.
I know it sounds as if I am contradicting myself...I'm not. If you are with a natural cheated they may cheat for the hell of it, which means think twice before forgiving them. But on the other hand you could be with a cheater that is trying to change but you set them off to cheat. Then you have the good people who don't cheat at all no matter what, but you set them off and they find someone else that treats then correct.
It all depends on the person and how much they will take when in a relationship. This also comes to what your response to the situation maybe. You could be the wrong on or they maybe the wrong one. When I say you maybe the wrong one I'm saying you could have been treating this person horrible and they need someone who will treat them right. Its not right but you drove them to go to someone else. If you had communication and respect in your relationship maybe it wouldn't happen. I'm just trying to be honest.

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BY: DOMONIQUE HUME

What are three things your significant other must do to keep you interested in your relationship?

I am talking on a general scale. The three things that most people require is Loyalty, Respect, and excellent Sex.
Loyalty because if you don't have trust in a relationship their is no way it can work. One must be able to let their significant other to leave the house without worry where they maybe going or who they are with. You and your partner also have a certain respect level for one another. Last but not least, Sex which I feel has a certain level of importance because if you aren't being satisfied one is very tempted to leave or cheat or your significant other.

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BY: DOMONIQUE HUME